RANTING AND BEYOND

“Ever heard of chaos theory? It’s a science, tries to determine underlying patterns in chaotic systems like weather, ocean currents, blood flow sort of things. But it turns out there’s nothing more chaotic than the beat of a human heart. Its beating up, slowing down. Pretty face, flirty stares. It’s always changing on what’s happening to ourselves out there. It’s an erratic son of a bitch. But underneath all of that bump-da-bump mess, there is in fact a pattern, the truth, and it’s love. Most important thing about love is that we choose to give it, and we choose to receive it. Making it the least random act in the entire universe. It transcends blood, it transcends betrayal and all the dirt and makes us human.”

A friend told me she wants her man back. She’d do anything to get him back.

It is always natural for women to feel frustrated and depressed when they lose someone special. Breaking up is like Armageddon (Thanks Moe for the word ). Im also guilty as most of them, at one point in time.

The question is, would you really win a man back if you pester him with all manner of demands, buying him gifts, calling him, sending him text messages for every God forsaken minute of the day. I have done all of these before and there will come a time that you get tired and nothing will happen.

The question is, it is worth the time and effort to win him back? Is he still inlove with you to start with? Figure it out. If the answer is YES, prove to him that you’re worth a second chance.

This time, be smart. Don’t drown the man with desperate words of begging. Give him time off. Avoid contact, do your normal activities, go out with friends and socialize. Be busy! If he misses you, he’d call. You can start celebrating. But if does not, accept the fact that you lost him completely and set the man free. Life goes on.

Crabmentality is a cultural phenomenon in the Philippines. We are being compared to a group of crabs ready to be cooked. Each crab tries to escape from heat and untimely death and they will try to pull each other down until they get out. If only the crabs work together, most of them will be out of the pot in no time.

Today, crabmentality simply means “If I can’t have it, neither can you”. It is evident in politics, sports, businesses or even in your own family and friends. Filipinos would rather pull each other down than succeed all together.

Why am I writing about this? Maybe I was a victim at one time but I chose not to retaliate. It is just so sad that even within my set of friends, crab mentality can be felt. Why can’t one be happy for the other?

The saying that silence is the best answer to anger is true. It is hard to tell a person that you’re upset. One would prefer that the other reads his/her thoughts as to the reason why. Is it being unfair? Or is silence a cowardly way of admitting that you’re sad? Or maybe you’re just too afraid to engage in conflict. Or maybe both.